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Greetings from Boston! I am officially a settled in Bostonian, and I have learned so much this month. I will start by saying that moving to a state is not easy — but it definitely serves as a great opportunity to learn about yourself and the world around you. September has treated me very well, and I’m glad I found the time to get this post in. My goal is to post at least once a month!
There is the age-old question, “What did you learn in school today?” Well, here is what I learned moving to a new state this month:
1. You will learn by making mistakes that co$t you.
It is easily known that moving states is a financial commitment, but finding the best deals takes some time. I moved here and thought loading $20 on my CharlieCard for the T (train for all my non-bostonian friends), would last me forever. It lasted about a week, and I can’t wait until October 1 to invest in the monthly pass. Another fun adventure I had was taking a $40 Uber to WATERTOWN, MA just to pick up a package. I had put the package for signature delivery, with the chances of me or my roommate being home very slim (which I would like to add that my roommate was home, but our garden level apartment can be hard to spot). I digress. In new surroundings, take the time to ask around before making impulse decisions! AND if you have never downloaded Uber or LYFT… you should + use my promo codes for a free ride with each!
2. Familiar faces are a #blessing.
I give major credit to those who move states without knowing a soul! I had a very easy transition since one of my best friends, Becca, has lived in Boston for over a year and knows the ropes. Who else would house your two large suitcases because your apartment isn’t move-in ready yet? And of course, my wonderful boyfriend has been in Boston since June and has seriously been my rock! He has helped me with all the stressors and I am so thankful to take this journey with him. This is an open invite to all my friends to please visit me (So glad I got to see my forever bestie, Carlie, in the Twerkus again!)
3. It’s really hard to not talk about your state . . . all the time.
I am such a proud Floridian and it really shows. I find myself constantly talking about Florida, checking the weather in Florida, and telling people that I am from Florida. I always noticed other people in college consistently talking about their home states and now I totally get it. It’s a way for me to keep Florida in my heart. And I can’t wait to kayak without the fear of an alligator attack. Side note: One of my Lyft drivers told me, “I can tell you’re from Florida, you have a different kind of beauty.” That’s good to know — keep it sunny, FL!
4. When you’re #workhappy, you are really, really happy.
I love my job. Her Campus Media is absolutely incredible and the women I work with are so driven and inspiring. I have truly found my niche in sales and can’t wait to see where it takes me. I got to experience an amazing getaway in the Berkshires for the office retreat! I am so thankful to have already made the trip to the mountains — we went hiking, apple picking, and cider tasting. In one week I was able to retreat in the mountains, hear Simon Sinek, Malcolm Gladwell, and Martha Stewart speak at #INBOUND14, then enjoy an evening with my Matt and my work ladies for the #HCTurns5 Birthday Bash!
5. Take things one day at a time.
This is a new mentality for me. I have always been notorious for stressing about 100 things at once. I came to the realization that I worried about things not going right, way before necessary to do so. Honestly, going to the serene mountains put everything into perspective. You can be so stressed over the littlest things, and maybe you make a few mistakes here and there, but the world keeps spinning. Don’t let Thursday ruin your Friday. Moving to a new state, or starting any new chapter, comes with a lot of “could have, would have, should have” moments, but you can’t let them control you. Life is beautiful and I am truly blessed.
I find it most appropriate to end this post with a huge huge huge THANK YOU to my mom, dad, and sister back home. Also to my friends who have been there for me throughout the process. BONUS: My roommate is awesome, helpful, and selfless (she is an AOII, after all!)
Today is my last full day as a Floridian. Tomorrow I will be a Bostonian.
With today being my last day, I am reflecting on how thankful I am for everything – especially these past three months. I have had one of the best summers ever and I spent it at home! Working at the summer camp I grew up at was the best decision I could have made. It was the ultimate mental detox from being such an involved student, and it is an amazing experience to spend time with friends you have basically known your whole life.
Seriously though – major shout out to my Next Stop Broadway family. They give me so much life and this summer had me laughing every day because they just get it. From needing to use a “phone bucket” to peel my 12/13-year-old campers off their phones to Wednesday dress up days, I loved every minute of it. P.S. to all reading – I got “Best Counselor of the Year” with fellow rockstar Daniel Kies which really was the icing on the cake! I have so much love for all of you.
Also, I really missed my family, so these three months were highly cherished. Now, I’m about to embark on a journey that will make me miss them even more. Moving to Boston is not easy, but somehow at this moment I have all my suitcases (only 2.5 . . . ) packed and three boxes ready to be shipped. I am looking forward to this next step in my life, and I am filled with so many emotions.
Boston will be amazing, I will have my wonderful boyfriend by my side as he begins grad school at Northeastern, one of my best friends Becca as a neighbor, and I will be rooming with a fellow AOII alumna! PLUS, my co-workers are all so fabulous and I can’t wait to contribute to the glory that is Her Campus.
To my loving family who I know is reading this: Thank you from every bit of my heart. You put up with me this summer, helped me prepare for this move, and taught me so much (as you always have). Thank you for being you. There are no words to describe how thankful I am. I had a wonderful family BBQ to say farewell, and passed down my Barbies and American Girl, which was a clear sign of “growing up.”
This summer reminded me to cherish lifelong friends. My friends and sisters from college are amazing, but there is nothing like lifelong friends who just get you. Friends who remember your AOL Hometown Page and away messages, and who wrote in your Hello Kitty Friends File. I have so many amazing friends in my life that I can talk to once every five months yet we never grow apart. You all know who you are!
I can’t say it enough – I have so many emotions right now. I am nervous, excited, proud, determined, scared, and so ready all at the same time. I’m coming for you Boston with my fancy new haircut (but I will miss Publix dearly).
All my love from Florida,
Happy New Year! It is exhilarating writing /14 next to all dates because 2014 is the year I graduate. I distinctly remember coming to orientation at USF in summer 2010 and seeing all the teddy bears, t-shirts and more stitched with Class of 2010. I said to my parents, “Hey! One day those are going to say 2014.”
Well hello, 2014 and what a ride it has been to get here. There have been multiple posts in articles, magazines, social media, etc. with the theme of NEW YEAR NEW ME. I think it is very important to keep goals, but I also think the best changes come from experiences we don’t think too much about.
Here is some advice to making this year count because every year only comes around once, and you get 365 (366 when we’re lucky) days to make that year count.
1. You ‘don’t need no man!’
Some of you who know me may remember when my Facebook name was, “Danielle dontneednoman Kushner.” Professional, right? I used to stress about others being in relationships, and always wondered what was wrong with me that I could not find commitment from others. After a break up that that taught me a lot, I motivated myself to not focus on who liked my photos, who was texting me, etc. Now I have my one year anniversary tomorrow (Jan. 11, depending when you’re reading this) with Matt, and I know we are in a healthy relationship that I deserve. I don’t need Matt, but I truly want, love, appreciate and am overall a better version of myself because I have him. You know who you do need? – family and good friends, so give them a call more than you do now. I have another personal goal to call my mom, dad & sister more while reaching out to friends I don’t always hang out with. So my iconic Facebook name is still true and hilarious. Be careful who you friend zone, I should have started dating Matt four years ago!
2. Put the phone down. Unplug.
“Today I finally overcame tryin’ to fit the world inside a picture frame.” – John Mayor.
This is ironic for me to say because I tend to feel that I need my phone out when hanging out with friends, at meetings, etc. But I’ve recently been called out on it and I appreciate that. This is a goal for myself this year: When I am out to dinner, at a meeting, or any where else where I should be listening to others my phone will be inside my bag on silent. Matt sent me an article that notes you actually remember moments less when you take a photo! We become so consumed with how many people like our pictures we post. If I like a photo enough to post it so who cares who else does? Whether I get 1 like or 150 likes, it should not determine my satisfaction in any situation. I only consistantly ‘Instagram’ food because I think food is beautiful and I am proud to be creative with healthy food. Keep posting your moments, but remember what moments need to be lived. In my defense… can all my GroupMe’s not blow up when I’m out? Here is a video, “I Forgot My Phone”,that really sealed the deal for me:
3. Traveling doesn’t mean going to Europe.
Traveling is the only thing you can spend money on that makes you richer. According to Google definition, to travel means “make a journey, typically of some length or abroad.” Typically, but not only. This is potentially my last year in Florida so I want to make that count. Some of my travel goals for this year are to stay at the Nick Hotel, re-visit all four Disney parks, spend more time in St. Pete + Clearwater beach, and actually use my Busch Gardens pass before it expires in May. In 2012 I went to Israel and in 2013 I spent the summer in New York, which will always be two of the most enriching experiences in my life. I hope this year you have big plans to just get out there even if it is just taking a road trip to a unique museum that is 30 minutes away.
I challenge you to Google the top things to do in (insert where you live) and do the first thing on that list that you have never done or have not done in the last five years. Or, just read outdoors every now and then. But if you do decide to go to Europe . . . enjoy!!! And remember to not spend the whole time Instagramming!